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Thursday 4 January 2018

Its heating up ....
Well l don't know about you, but l've  had more cool showers in this heat of the past few weeks than the rest of my life put together . We are getting a wet season this year . The mornings are a false promoise of a clear sunny day , by lunch time its clouding over and you have a facebook feed of severe storm warnings  and usually about three the light show begins with just enough of a downpour to make the grass grow fast enough for twice weekly mowing !

l know this makes me sound old ...but l don't remember feeling the heat when l was a kid  and yes maybe l don't remember because it was a wee while ago! Mind you, l wasn't fat then either and since adipose tissue provides great blubber for warmth , that may be why us plus sizes feel the heat more. We didn't wear ployester or nylon  clothes much though either , usually clothes that were made from  cotton.  In the Malley we mostly lived from the tank; so wasting water was a No No, but if it got a bit hot you were allowed to don your kinnies  and go under the sprinkler with the dog and your pet duck so they would cool down at the same time . Of course, if it did reach heat wave status then as an extra special treat you were allowed to emerse yourself in a 44 gallon drum as long as you gave it a squirt out first to chase the spiders away... . Dad would take me swimning in the irrigation chanel in the late afternoons which was where l learned to swim.

 On occassion, a very very rare occassion Mum and l would drive the ten miles into town and go to the "swimming bathes " as Mum would call the pool and we would wear our " swimming costumes " as  Mum always said this or " bathers"..never "togs" .If you think her language was old fashion.  you should have got an eyefull of  her "togs"!. lm pretty sure they were the same fashion in the 1956 Olympics( we're talking 70s by now ). Mum was of
a small and holy woman and she had  left the Convent to marry in the forties...Although, l never dared ask, l was fairly sure they must have been her Nun's togs!!.  It was embarrassing enough  ,  having a mother with togs from the "roaring 20s" but as she couldn't swim , l was only allowed in the " little pool " with kids half my size.. I will never forget those togs though, they were navy one piece with  extra  material across the front of the legs about 2 inches down from the crotch  , to hide it l would imagine ! .  Understandably, l didn't press  her to take me swimming too often .Thank God we never went to the beach with all those extra bits of material in Ma's togs  getting the sand out would have needed an excavatiion







As a child,  l had never heard of airconditioning !We did however  have a big arse air cooler  that you had to position near a open window so the overflow water could go out . You also had to put water in the bloody thing as well . Dragging buckets of water to pour into the appropriate receptical was a quiet a chore and this machine was as noisy as all hell when it got going !. The cooler lived in the lounge room facing Dad whilst he was watching the cricket!. Mum was thin and must not have felt the heat much  as she always wore the full complement of clothing including a "frock" . a half slip underneath , stocking and suspenders, undies you could easily use as a ships sail  and a nicely ironed apron ( no doubt left over from her war years nursing uniform which also included a starched apron.  God rest her soul) xx. So we had long given up trying to keep mother cool ! So if you needed a repreave from the heat it looked something like this...sitting in the lounge with Dad , ciggarette smoke and all , pretending to like the cricket and have some clue what "silly mid offs " were " tolerating the deafening volume of the TV to get over the roar of the load hum of the air cooler, while at the same  listening to Dad recount his days of playing cricket for the Christian brothers with great  accolades of what a fantastis coach brother so and so was who taught them how to spit and polish  the ball when they were bowling ..without being seen !!  .it was much less effort to just play under the tank stand with the dog and the  duck  and almost as cool and healthier for my lungs and ears!!

And l know that this an oldie but a goodie  ..which we all know but probably seldom do...but in this heat ...drink heaps.... l have been and my fatigue has been reduced.  What's working for me is having a jug of water beside the bed at night.  Also, l have downloaded a " "drink more water" app that results in  " toilet flushing  bubbly " noises emitting from my phone on the hour to prompt me to drink. Unfotunately, this prompts me to pee as well as drink so believe me l have to gussel  a powerful lot of water to stay hydrated !!

Thanks so much for taking a wander down memory lane with me today xx

Monday 1 January 2018



It's All a Matter of Perspective ...


"Happy new year"  ......It just slides off our tongue sooo easily and is very frequently followed by "I hope so" or " it would have to be better than this year" or "this year has been a s**t year". Whether we have had a great or not so great year generally it's a matter of perspective , I usually find. I of course, do acknowledge that some of us have had truly difficult years with horrid experiences or losses and the expected and entirely appropriate emotions to go with them. I really appreciate the need for emotional expression and the need to do this least our trauma comes back to bite us.If the situation isn't truly devastating and sometimes it is , then I try to give myself a bit of a time line to feel sorry for myself. So, my thoughts might be "OK that's disappointing I didn't get that job but I'm going to allow myself till the start of next week to feel sorry for myself and feel this way then l'm going to climb up to that place where I can get on with it "!. For me. sometimes if I just start acting a certain way very often the emotion will catch up. I usually find if i feel yuck , the poor people I talk to about it , the worse i feel. This is exactly where gratitude can kick on in . I can focus on the fact that health and career wise , 2017  hasn't been my finest hour, but, I can cope with the negative thoughts about that by having a practise of gratitude . I say "a practise" because coping mechanisms are a bit like labour breathing , if you don't practise it daily ..when life hots up and gets painful...it will fast go out the window because it is not a "daily practise" and as such we can't simply engage it automatically.

So how can we start being grateful?. I always think globally and gradually work my way back to little old me  and ask myself ...

  • What concrete things can I be grateful for that some people in our world don't have and I take for granted?
  • What conflict, cultural and religious pressures do others have that I don't and take for granted?
  • What is unique to my country , state, government , weather, customs , laws, technology , politics, religion, employment,  culture and freedoms and  environment that I am grateful for?
  • Who in my family, friends and work family am i grateful for?
  • Do I live with acute or chronic physical disease or pain , if not i'm grateful!
  • Do I have all my faculties, senses, am I mobile , can I go out , walk , drive and am I independent? If so show I gratitude.
  • Do i live with mental illness, yes, but mostly i'm functional, so I'm grateful.
  • Am I so emotional unwell that I live with anxiety , depression, psychosis or suicidaility ? If not, I show gratitude
  • Do i have life giving relationships , am i loved instead of suffering physical, sexual, financial, emotional or elder abuse, for this i am grateful?
  • Do i have a faith and a faithful community or an interest club that I can be grateful for?
  • Do I have entertainment or music or a hobby I am grateful for ?
  • Have I had acts of kindness bestowed upon me ?.If so then  for this I am grateful.
  • Do i have fur babies or other pets to colour my world, if so I show gratitude.
  • Do i have enough.......
Some people like to have a gratitude journal where they record their gratefulness and look back on it when times are hard and they need a reminder of all that they should be grateful for. Of course, the modern and sexy crafty thing to do these days is to make your journal out of recycled materials by gutting an old hard cover novel with a decent size spine , making the pages for it and covering it and personalizing it with recycled materials and your own private art.
Speaking of Art , my images are not showing up on blog , hopefully I can problem solve this soon .

happy new year everyone 

Liz xx